from mind to reality

You’ve probably heard that to manifest, it’s helpful to redefine your identity.

If you want to be rich, it’s “I am a wealthy woman/man.”

If you want to be healthy, it’s “I’m someone who consciously chooses to eat well and move my body.”

If you want to make new friends, it could be “I’m valuable, likable, and a great friend people would love to have.”

But if you’ve tried to do this, you may have realized how darn hard it is to do, when you feel worlds away from the identity you want.

I know I’ve definitely been there… for one thing, in my fitness journey. And more recently, in my journey to a better self-image and confidence.

So today, I’d like to share some tips from my experience to create a new identity for manifesting.

Let’s get to it!

The chicken-or-egg problem of identity

People think they need confidence before they feel ready to take the first step. But actually it’s the other way around. You build confidence through taking the first step… and then the next, and then the next.

Confidence comes as a RESULT of experiencing.

• You’re confident at work after years on the job, because you know you know what you’re doing.

• You’re a confident cook because you’ve made the recipe countless times.

• You feel confident as a dancer because you’ve done the steps thousands of times.

How to embody a new identity for your manifestation

So what does this mean when creating a new identity for your manifestation?

You need to lead with action.

You can sit on your couch and meditate on what it feels like to be a 7-figure business owner, a fitness bombshell, or a charismatic person all day.

But if afterwards, you go back to doing the same old thing you’ve always been doing… guess what? You ain’t embracing that new identity.

In fact, you’re reversing the effects of your mindset work. Because you’re creating dissonance between what you’re trying to believe and what you’re expressing in the 3D world.

And actions have far greater impact than thoughts — so your thoughts will adapt to match your actions.

My personal experience

If you knew me 7 years ago, you know I reeeeally didn’t like working out.

And yet, I reeeeally wanted to have a super fit and healthy body.

It took me 7 years to finally get one.

At first, I wished for a way to look super fit without actually changing anything about the way I was eating. I worked out for maybe 10 minutes 2-3 times per week… but it definitely wasn’t matching my actions to the vision I had for myself.

The thing is, a person who looks the way I wanted to look doesn’t behave the way I was behaving. They don’t eat junk food like I was doing. They don’t skip workouts like I was doing. They don’t neglect their health like I was.

Instead, they make conscious choices to eat nutritious, healthy food. They prioritize moving their body relying on commitment rather than motivation. They educate themselves on healthy choices so they can make the best decisions.

So when did I start being the fit person I dreamed of being?

When I started doing the things above.

It certainly didn’t happen all at once. It was in small, incremental steps:

• I started doing cardio for 20 minutes, then 30 minutes, then increasing my speed.
• I signed up with a personal trainer who showed me how to use weights.
• I gradually increased the weight and my training frequency.
• I learned about foods for muscle growth and metabolism speed.
• I learned which workouts are effective for burning calories.

And with each of those actions, I was proving to myself who I was. “I eat like a fit person. I exercise like a fit person. I learn about health like a fit person. Oh, I guess I’m a fit person.”

Certainly, you can visualize to kick things off — but immediately follow up with action, otherwise your beliefs won’t actually take root in your subconscious mind.

Some more practical examples

Let’s have a look at what embodying a new identity could look like for a few more goals.

1. If you want to be rich

New identity: “I am a wealthy woman/man. Money flows freely to me.”

How would a person like this act? Start being that way now. For example:

• Be aware of how much you have on your account.
• Keep track of your spendings. How much do you spend, on what?
• Educate yourself on finances — investments, savings, money management, etc.
• Assess your expenses and see if you need them all. Do you have any subscriptions you don’t actually use?
• Take good care of the money already in your life. Fold it neatly in your wallet. Keep it neatly organized in your accounts. Treat it like something you love.
• Take good care of the things you buy and pay for — as if they cost 10x as much as they really did.
• Put savings aside before you start to spend.
• Look for opportunities to save money — rewards programs at stores you regularly shop at, coupons or bundle promotions, etc.
• Be conscious of how you spend money — don’t make impulsive purchases, but decisions that align with your lifestyle and goals.
• Consider opportunities to make more money. Could you ask for a raise? Can you monetize the blog you’ve been running? Can you start a new side hustle from your passion?

2. If you want to be healthy

New identity: “I’m super fit, hot and healthy inside and out.”

How would a person like this act? Start being that way now. For example:

• Be concious of what you eat in a day. Don’t just mindlessly eat whatever, in any quantities. Choose deliberately.
• If it suits you, track what you eat. (At least to the extent that it helps you with the point above).
• Educate yourself on food nutrition, calories, effects on hunger and satiety, etc.
• Plan your grocery shopping to eat foods that align with the body and health you want.
• Learn about different types of workouts — increasing metabolism, gaining muscles, burning fat, etc.
• Learn how to do exercises properly and most effectively.
• Make time in your schedule to go to the gym and do it even if you don’t feel motivated. (Even on off days — a half-done workout is still better than no workout!)
• Find strategies to keep yourself on track — buddy up with an accountability partner, track habits in a calendar, get your partner to sing a song you hate over and over again until you get your butt out the door and to the gym… whatever works for you.

3. If you want to have soulmate-level friends

New identity: “I’m incredibly likable and charismatic, and attract like-minded people into my life”

How would a person like this act? Start being that way now. For example:

• Hold yourself confidently, with good posture while standing, walking, and sitting.
• Look people in the eye and smile at them.
• Give a firm handshake while meeting new people.
• Define your values and how you believe you give value to others.
• Keep in contact with the friends you already have and appreciate.
• Research tips to exude charisma and come across as more likable.
• Don’t wear earphones while out in public or at work, but stay open to engaging with people around you.
• Take an active interest in other people and cultivate a genuine desire to get to know them and add value to their lives.
• Use opportunities to interact and engage with people around you — without expectations for them to become friends. (Your ideal self, who has soulmate friends, isn’t clingy or needy with every person they meet — they let people be free and invest in those who truly align with them!)
• Say yes to invitations and opportunities to meet people (as long as they align with your values).

Doing these actions might feel strange and “out of character” for you at first.

But pretty soon, you’ll find that these actions slowly reshape that character.

It’s much easier to believe that you’re a fit person after you’ve hauled your booty to the gym a few times.

And once you have, you can reinforce your belief, which makes it easier to do the actions, and so forth. It’s the best ever type of snowball effect.

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Have you found this inspiring? Add your own ideas with a goal, identity, and some possible actions to the comments below. Let’s help each other grow and manifest the life we crave.